I will never have felt so happy in my life than I will when u come into this world. I will be so grateful to God for giving me this little bundle of joy that is you.
But daughter, I cannot let go of the hard truth that you are after all a girl. And I know that because the family you will be born into wanted me to have your sex determined when you were in my womb. It didn’t matter to me and I was happy that you were a girl. But I cannot say that about the rest of the family. They were hoping for a son but its okay. They will learn to love you as time passes by. You are a big responsibility, daughter. But don’t worry, I will teach you everything you need to know.
You should remember this daughter that bringing you into this world is a generous gesture by your family. You will live a life and you will learn your duties. You need to learn because you will need it for your future. If you see your brothers playing in the garden, it doesn’t mean you can run and play with them. You will learn to sweep and dust. You will learn to cook and clean.
We will provide you education and let you have the freedom of speaking your mind and writing your thoughts. In this country it is a blessing for a girl, so consider yourself lucky. As you grow up you will have your own needs and wants. But you have to put yourself after your brothers. Their needs come first. That’s the tradition that is followed and u must learn it too.
The clothes you wear and the way you present yourself matter a lot. You cannot wear short clothes and definitely not wear makeup on a regular day. Because here, the length of your clothes IS a measure of your character. Speaking of which, you cannot move around with boys or talk to them in private. It is like giving them an open invitation to molest you or take wrong advantages. And if that happened the society will look down on our family which is not acceptable. More importantly you will not get a groom. Nobody will want your hand in marriage because your ethics and your respect are now in question. And evidently, you will become a burden to our family.
Once married, you will have to live your life according to your husband and his family. Their wellbeing will be your number one priority from then on. There may be times when your views don’t match with that of your husbands’ but learn to hold your tongue. Remember that you are here to take care of his house in the day and warm his bed in the night. And voicing your opinions and complaining is not good for your relationship. When you have children your responsibilities will double. And you might find it difficult but don’t whine. Learn to laugh through the tough times. You were designed for this. Therefore the saying goes, ‘A bride should arrive her home in her palanquin and leave it in her coffin’.
And if your daughter is lucky enough to arrive in this world, do teach her these important teachings for her future.